Out of town Groomsman's Child (Adult Only Wedding)
My fiance and I originally agreed to an adult only wedding and ceremony, as it is a black tie affair and will be held from 7-11 in the evening. The wedding will be in MD, where we are currently living and where all my family is from. Most of the grooms family and friends will be traveling from MS. One of the groomsman has a child that is about 12 and he will be traveling from MS as well. My fiance recently told me that he thought it would be disrespectful to ask his groomsman not to bring his child because he was traveling such a long distance. If I allow this child to come to our wedding, then I feel I have to open it up so that all children are welcome. The problem is that many of my relatives have children and would definitely bring them. I think it would be inappropriate to allow the groomsman's child to attend, while turning the children away from my family. I definitely want to keep this an adult's only wedding due to the added cost of children, time of the ceremony/reception, and limited number of guests I can invite (the ceremony/reception will be on a yacht). I've already decided not to invite people that I wish could come because of the limited amount of space on the guest list. I've offered to find a sitter for the groomsman's child during the 4 hours of the wedding. However, my fiance feels it would be insulting to not invite her to the wedding as well. He is unwilling to compromise. I'm in quite a dilema because I've already excluded many people that I wish could come and if this child attends the wedding, many of my family members will be upset with me because I did not allow them to bring their children as well. Do you have any ideas on how to handle this situation? Any advice would be appreciated. Thanks
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Aug 9, 2005, 12:09 PM
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Re: [SweetiePie] Out of town Groomsman's Child (Adult Only Wedding)
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Dear Child Free,
It would be disrespectful and unfair to the rest of your guests if one child is invited and not all. I completely agree with you. Actually, this is an adult event and I wouldn't consider inviting children either.
Please suggest to your fiance that inviting one child is like telling everyone else that their children are not as important as this one.
Out of town Groomsman's Child (Adult Only Wedding)
