I hope this is the right thread for a rather unusual post about the selection and proper age for a Flower Girl. For more years than I can even remember, my close friend (Heather) and I have been "typical giggling girls" awaiting that magical day of our weddings (or at the very least, being a part of a friend's wedding party)! I realize that only a small percentage of girls seem to have the chance of serving as a flower girl and as I have had that honour 2 times, perhaps that is why this issue is important to me. I learned from Heather's mom recently that as my closest friend, Heather's fondest wish was to be young enough to be the flower girl at my wedding. As we are only 9 months apart in age tho, by typical convention, that would not be possible. I can think of no more wonderful gift to my absolute best lifetime friend (or myself in all truth) than to give her her wish. I understand the hierarchy of tradition as described by MY family and others but feel my wedding is to be a place of joy and dreams and caring . Three things that have characterized this friendship from the moment we met. Is there anything wrong with giving this gift of happiness to Heather? My MIL/2b thinks it is "creepy" (not exact words, but close). My fiancee however thinks it is one of the most wonderful things he ever heard. We have even written a special poem to be printed in the wedding handout to explain this idea. Thanks !
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expertplanner
BRIDAL CONSULTANT
Dec 12, 2005, 9:27 AM
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Re: [Katie Marie] Proper AGE for a Flower Girl
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Dear Katie:
Your best friend is too old to be a flower girl. Select an age appropriate child for the role and give your best friend an adult role in the wedding. If she really is your best friend then don't put her in a role that will embarrass her and you.
Cheers! Rhonda Allen, Bridal Consultant New Beginnings Weddings
Etiquette Now
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Dec 12, 2005, 11:32 AM
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Re: [Katie Marie] Proper AGE for a Flower Girl
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I completely agree. This would be an embarrassing moment, especially when the guests see a grown flower girl.
The typical age is between three and seven.
A more appropriate role would be Honor Attendant. Choosing her as flower girl just may appear demeaning, not sweet. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
Proper age for a Flower Girl
