Our former babysitter is getting married and will be having all 4 of our children in the wedding. My oldest is a 15 year old girl who is tall and is self-conscious about her body. The other brides maids will be wearing strapless dresses - I have agreed to make both of my girl's dresses where they can be similar yet more covered so they will feel more comfortable.
My questions are, what role before the wedding should these girls have in the wedding. Should they be attending the others as dresses are being selected? What role do I have in helping with the showers? Do the two boys need to be doing something prior to the wedding - they are ring bearer and jr. grooms' man. Any suggestions regarding my role in all this is appreciated!
expertplanner
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Mar 9, 2007, 2:55 PM
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Because of their ages, none of the children would be expected to attend the pre-wedding events, with the exception of the rehearsal.
As for what role you have in helping with the shower, usually, if one is planned, it is done so by the honor attendant and/or the bridesmaids. If you are an attendant, you might be asked to assist in someway. If you are not, then you are not expected to play any role in the shower other than maybe attending as a guest. Rhonda Allen, Bridal Consultant New Beginnings Weddings
nahs220
Mar 9, 2007, 6:49 PM
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I am not part of the wedding party, but the bride has been including the oldest in the bridal party emails. I am not sure if it is because she just wants her to feel included, or she wants us to do something. There is talk about 3 or more showers and all I could think of was eeks this is getting out of hand!
Etiquette Now
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Mar 11, 2007, 2:24 PM
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Dear Nahs,
Yes, this is getting out of hand. There shouldn't be more than two, besides the work shower. Family shouldn't be involved. And, she shouldn't be involved. Your children, unless grown wouldn't be hosting.
It may be best to ask her to read our many posts or any etiquette book that covers weddings. One of my favorites is the Idiot's Guide to Etiquette.
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