Please correct me if I am wrong. My girls, my brothers nieces, were asked to be flower girls in his wedding. We were not told that they would "not be welcome" at the reception until recently(the wedding is sept 07) They will be 7years and 5 years. My sisters baby who is 2 and her nephew who is also 2 are also in the wedding. The four kids are expected to be in the ceremony and then sent to a hotel room to be baby sat, while we go to the dinner. We were told that they weren't welcome at the dinner, but could come down to dance after we eat. This to me doesn't make much sense..If you ask kids to be in your wedding, shouldn't you at least allow them to come to the reception, I'm not asking to feed them a 200 dollar plate, but just to include them in the whole day. Am I wrong? Please help. I am causing a family feud over this and I feel that I am not wrong.
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Re: [shirley] flower girls not invited to the reception
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Dear Shirley,
We have mentioned this so many times, that if children are not welcome at the reception, don't include them in the ceremony. Most often, as is the case here, parents become insulted. Plus, the children should be considered as part of the bridal party--sort of. They are invited to the rehearsal dinner and reception.
But, many times, especially with younger children, they will only stay for the dinner and then retire to the sitters. Children become so excited and tire quickly. So, the couple probably could have mentioned this option and perhaps the result would have been better received.
flower girls not invited to the reception
