I have found numerous posts regarding people who wish to include their children in the wedding, but I can't seem to find anything about people who neglect to involve the children.
This is a second wedding for both parties.
Bride's son, 9years old, will be the ring bearer. (I know, I know....he's too old.)
Groom's grown daughters (27, 28, 30) were not asked, involved, anything....not to mention their children.
I have not said anything, as I believe that the bride should be able to have "her day" without it being run by others (although her mother has made most decisions about it, some without even consulting the bride/groom). It just seems to me that a second marriage, involving grown children, that they're setting themselves up for a not-so-great relationship with his children. (Two of his children see them daily, so it's not like they're not "close".)
I'm sure you can tell that I'm one of his daughters and, although I couldn't care less, my sister has always been very close to our dad and I think there are some hurt feelings here. Honestly, I wish I had a good excuse not to even attend.
Any input?
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Mar 18, 2008, 12:34 PM
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Re: [curious1] Her Child-Yes, His Children-NO ??
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This is something decided on by the bride and groom. Perhaps you can discuss this, gently, with your dad. He may have no idea how you and your sister feel. And yes, 9 years old is too old for a ring bearer. I hope your dad and his bride wil get that message since the boy could be embarassed. Young boys tend to get embarassed easily, especially if he is to wear the traditional ring bearer outfit.
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Mar 18, 2008, 2:35 PM
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Re: [curious1] groom's children not asked to be in the wedding
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I couldn't agree more. Your dad could have all of you standing on his side. He may not know that. And, I do agree that he may not know that any of you want to participate.
groom's children not asked to be in the wedding
