groom's family paying for 1/2 wedding-children not invited
My husband & I are paying for 1/2 of our son's wedding. Our future daughter-in-law and our son said several times "No children under the age of 16yrs. old." We always came back with there will be an exception - my brother's 3 boys -ages 10,14 &16. I sent my guest list when they asked for it and specifically stated my brother,wife & family. They took it upon themselves to ignore my request and send an invitation to my brother & sister-in-law only. Needless to say everyone in my family is very upset & disappointed. I spoke with both my son and his future bride and they won't budge. Should I back out of paying? Maybe just offer to cover whatever family is allowed? Please advise.......Need some help.....
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Re: groom's family paying for 1/2 wedding-children not invited
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Your generous offer to pay for one half of the wedding really shouldn't be given with strings attached. (Just my opinion).
Your son and his bride have every right to have the wedding they want, with or without children, and to invite whomever they wish. Plus, it would be very difficult for them to make one exception. If they don't allow other parent's to bring their children, how would they explain these children's attendance? That would surely make other parents feel inferior and may cause strife with other family members. So, it's always best to either allow or disallow children across the board. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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I couldn't agree more. Parents are not financially responsible for their children's weddings these days, so anything they contribute is a gift. It isn't polite to stipulate or demand any conditions on the receipt of a gift. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
groom's family paying for 1/2 wedding-children not invited
