My fiance and I are having a hard time finding a flowergirl. There are two little girls that both of us have known since they were born. As you can probably guess, both of the girls expect to be our flowergirl. Their parents have also hinted around about it as well. We could never decide between the two and honestly have not really wanted them to be the flowergirls. One is about to be 8 and the other 7. Both look more mature for their age, and we want a younger looking flower girl. Our ring bearer will be 3 (and is very well behaved, don't worry!!) so we think it may look odd to have such a big girl with a little boy. We weren't planning on having any junior bridesmaids either. The other one that expects to be our flowergirl is my fiance's cousin. She, too, is very mature looking for her age. I don't know her well either so it would be awkward for me to have her be a part of our wedding. What should I do? Just try to find someone new? If our wedding isn't until Summer '05, do I still have time to decide??
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It sounds like you have to make a choice. My thoughts are:
1. No flower girl only a ring bearer
2. Use them both as junior bridesmaids
3. No flower girl, use the two older girls as hostesses who could pass out programs, generally assist the guests with comfort issues (where's the bathroom)
I would not exclude them both and then bring in someone new you practically have to find...that would be a smack to the two girls and their parents.
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I liked your advice (and so did my fiance)!! I think we are going to use the two girls as something "special" in our wedding. I don't want to have junior bridesmaids, but I will definitely find a special part for them to have. Even if it is handing out programs... they'll love it!! I do, however, think that I will find someone to be a flowergirl. I teach preschool so I am constantly around little ones. I just haven't known them since they were born, like I have the other two. I don't think it would hurt the girls' feelings as long as they had their "special" parts too. ;) Thanks for your advice!! How soon do I need to ask someone to be my flowergirl/ring bearer??
Typically, there is a little girl with whom the bride has some sort of attachment and so, she wants to include her in the wedding party. A flower girl is not essential. Why go out of your way to ask a child that you are not really close with? The parents do have to incur an expense plus the time involved to teach and encourage the girl to perform her task.
I would suggest leaving out the flower girl...this way no one's feelings are hurt when they find out that a girl that is not a member of the family has been asked. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
hard time finding a flowergirl
I think we are going to use the two girls as something "special" in our wedding. I don't want to have junior bridesmaids, but I will definitely find a special part for them to have. Even if it is handing out programs... they'll love it!! I do, however, think that I will find someone to be a flowergirl. I teach preschool so I am constantly around little ones. I just haven't known them since they were born, like I have the other two. I don't think it would hurt the girls' feelings as long as they had their "special" parts too. ;) Thanks for your advice!! How soon do I need to ask someone to be my flowergirl/ring bearer?? 
