I have two friends with sons who are all close in age. My maid of honor's son will be 5 when I get married and is my God son. One of my other bride's maids has 2 boys 6 and 4. Her 4 year old is also my god son. I thought about having my God children both serve as ring bearers. Unfortunately, the 6 year old seems to be a little upset to find out that his brother is to be a ring bearer but not him. I could have the two brothers be my ring bearers, but I would probably upset the 5 year old and his mother. Three ring bearers might be 1 too many, but I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings. I considered having one boy escort my flower girl down the aisle so that no one feels left out. I just can't figure out who should be my ring bearers.
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Gender matters much less these days for which I say, "Great!" However, some are still expecting the flower girl to be a girl. So, this might be a problem for you. But, it might be easier (and much better) for you to avoid having children in your wedding all together. Children can be excitable or frightened by the experience. They definitely display unexpected behavior at times. My experience has been uneven with some walking confidently down the aisle and some screaming, diving, and hiding under the nearest skirt. Funny? Yes, but probably not what you have in mind.
If you want the boys in your wedding, two could be ring bearers and the other could be your escort or one could be a ring bearer and two could be young-ish pages. It really is your choice though as there is no "stand by your ground" etiquette here except when it comes to age--not too young and not too old.
Thanks for the advice! I actually wasn't planning on having one of the boys be my flower girl but having one of them escort my flower girl. She's a little young and rather close with one of the older boys. I hadn't thought about pages before, but I really like the idea.
who should be the ring bearer?
