My future husband and FSIL are very close. I asked her to be a bridesmaid in order to ensure she had a big part in the wedding. She now has asked to make a speech and I am really not too sure of this; is this even appropriate? She and I don't exactly get on like a house on fire and I don't think the reception needs any more speeches than there already are. My Fiance has already told her she can do it (without consulting me) and I really want to say 'no' but I fear this will cause all sorts of problems between his family and me. What can I do?
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Unfortunately, your groom has already told his sister she can make a speech. It would be very difficult to take that back now. Speak to your fiance, asking him to make sure the two of you always discuss the details before agreeing to anything further. This advice should go toward you, as well, since the two of you are a team and all of the planning should be a joint effort.
As long as your future sister-in-law won't be an embarrassment, I think it;s safe to allow just one more speech. maybe the groom could ask her to limit her speech to a few minutes in the interest of time. I'm sure he could come up with a nice way of addressing his concerns with her. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
I completely agree. And, it is common to allow other family members to offer their congratulations after the main speeches. This isn't inappropriate. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
FSIL wants to make a speech
