Mother of the groom cannot afford to pay for rehearsal dinner
My youngest son is getting married next month, and it is my understanding the groom's parents pay for the rehearsal dinner. I am widowed, and am not able to afford much. The dinner is being held at the bride's parent's home. I was asked to make desserts, by my son. Are there any suggestions you would have to help me feel part of the celebration, even though I cannot offer much monetarily?
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Re: [girl45] Mother of the groom cannot afford to pay for rehearsal dinner
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Dear Girl45,
Parents are no longer financially responsible, so please do not feel guilty.
My mother couldn't afford a typical wedding gift, which she really wasn't obligated to give. So, when I married my current husband (a real sweetie) she made my favorite childhood jam (plum). I was so surprised and delighted that she even remembered. I haven't been a child in many years. So, making your son's favorite dessert for the rehearsal dinner may be a way of sharing some of your son's childhood memories with everyone in attendance.
Re: [girl45] Mother of the groom cannot afford to pay for rehearsal dinner
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Wonderfully said Rebecca.
Just attending seems like enough to me but if you want to do more, perhaps you could offer your son a personal gift from his father such as a watch or a pair of cufflinks he might have worn.
You could also ask your son, the bride and her parents if there is anything you can help with such as addressing invitations. This goes much faster and is more pleasant if done in a group. It doesn't have to be about how much money we contribute. Your time and effort have value too. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
Mother of the groom cannot afford to pay for rehearsal dinner
