Help! My fiance will not discuss wedding with me. We already have children together and live together. He will not discuss the wedding though. The only thing he has told me is that he wants to be married in a church. I got the church, the hall, the dress. He is uninterested. What do I do to get him to open up? He has not mentioned who he wants to stand up with him or discussed the wedding with any of his friends. What is going on? Help please.
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Aug 8, 2005, 4:56 PM
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Re: [diane2006] groom doesn't want to talk
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Well, it's hard to tell what's happening with your fiance but it could be that he's just not that interested in wedding planning (many guys could car less about all of the hoopla) or maybe he's getting cold feet.
Now's the time to talk, talk, talk and get him to tell you if there is an issue. Let him know that, as the groom, he does have certain responsibilites such as selecting his groomsmen and he should be doing this now.
If he doesn't want to talk, and you DO, then maybe the two of you need to decide if you should really be married. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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Aug 8, 2005, 5:18 PM
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Dear Diane:
I agree. Regardless of whether he is interested or not, he still should be supportive of the planning for you AND his wedding day and not talking about it isn't showing support. Rhonda Allen, Bridal Consultant New Beginnings Weddings
diane2006
Aug 8, 2005, 6:50 PM
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Thank you for answering so quickly! I had a little chat with him this evening and I found out that he would like to go to Vegas. I very gently informed him that money has already been given to vendors and we are on a very strict budget, if we cancel and go to Vegas we will be out that money. Also, I do not want my special day in Vegas. I think for some people it would fine, but not for me. He feels that I am under too much stress with planning the wedding and going to Vegas would alleviate that stress. He is not into all of the "hoopla" and said he feels I would do a fine job planning the wedding without his feedback on everything. He then got on the phone and asked 6 good friends to stand up for him. I think our talk went very well, Thank you all again.
Diane
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Aug 8, 2005, 7:55 PM
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Re: [diane2006] groom doesn't want to talk
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Ahhh...you now have the tool with which to have a successful marriage...communication! Being able to disuss issues and problem solve is key in any relationship.
Unfortunately, it seems like you will have to be the one to open the discussions but perhaps, in time, your guy will get the hang of this.
Good going... Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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