Someone must have asked a similar question before, as I can't be the only person with a wedding like this, but I can't find it the way I'm searching.
Our wedding in my (the bride's) hometown. All of the groomsmen in our wedding party are from out of town, two from a different part of the state, and the best man from the other side of the country. With this being the case, it doesn't seem like they are able to fill many of their pre-wedding duties. None of them are familiar with the town in which the wedding is going to be held, so I'm not sure how they are even going to get around to pick up & return tuxes, much less guide guests to the reception and such. (I'm planning on lots of printed directions for everyone.)
As far as a bachelor party, my fiance wants to hang out as a group but not have the typical bachelor party. I'm asking that everyone arrive the Thurs. before the Sat. wedding so they can double check that their tuxes fit & get subs if something doesn't. They will go for their "guys night" that night since the rehearsal/dinner is Friday and the wedding weekend is the only time we'll be able to get them all into the same town. Is it appropriate for us to just plan this get together ourselves, since it is what my fiance wants & none of the guys will know the town well enough to plan otherwise? How do we deal with cost if we doing the planning but ask the groomsmen all to attend?
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Oct 17, 2006, 6:49 PM
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Re: [zebe912] All Groomsmen out of town
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Dear Groom,
If you plan this, you would be expected to pay. However, you could simply plan a party with little overhead cost. That would probably be best.
Re: [Et.byRebecca] All Groomsmen out of town
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All he wants to do is go to his favorite wings place for dinner/evening snack because they don't have the chain where the others live. It won't be much of anything and by no means a formal party, so does he still have to cover the cost then for everyone, even though it is in leiu of any other parties they would be required to attend?
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Oct 17, 2006, 8:17 PM
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Re: [zebe912] All Groomsmen out of town
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If he is inviting, he is required to pay.
Even though all attendants are expected to attend pre-wedding parties, they are not obligated to pay for them. So, he would either wait for one of them to want to host it, or he would be paying for it.
It wouldn't be polite to plan a gathering and expect guests to pay for it. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
All Groomsmen out of town
