I've searched far and wide for an answer to this question, but there really isn't any formal protocol to it one way or the other.
My fiance doesn't have a lot of close "friends." (male or female) other than myself, his closest friend happens to be his ex-girlfriend. He has asked her to be his best man, without coming to me for my input. I'm not thrilled about the idea. This girl is a drama queen if ever I met one. She can't stand to be in the same room as me, but is very close to the family. My future MIL and SIL think this is a bad idea. (MIL thinks that SIL should be "best man" if he wants a female attendant, and although I would love to have SIL as a bridesmaid, I think that she would prefer to stand up for her big brother)
The girl has neither accepted the job of best man, nor declined it. (In fact, she hasn't responded to a single call or email since he told her he was engaged a month ago.)
I guess what I'm really trying to ask is... Is it acceptable for an ex to be best 'maid'? They were never married, and have no children. They broke up over a year before I met my fiance, so there isn't any bad blood or resentment there. I feel that the decision is disrespectful to me, and am not excited about having an exes name on the wedding certificate.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
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Re: [jennavision] Asking ex-girlfriend to be best man?
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Dear Jenna,
This is a bad idea. Sometimes exes can be very good friends with the couple, but it is not the case here. Plus, it is often confusing for the guests who know she is his ex. It may be best for your fiance to speak to her right away before she agrees. By then it would be too late.
Asking ex-girlfriend to be best man?
