Bride does not want to ask brothers to be groomsmen
Hi,
I have two brothers, one younger and one older.
My older brother is 40, im 36 and my younger brother is 35.
I'm not estranged from them, but I haven't really spoken to them since about November.
My younger brother is very overbearing and sort of an alphamale and i just don't want to deal with him in the wedding.
I wasn't in either of my brother's weddings. The younger one got married out of state. The older one had a small ceremony, but i wasn't asked to be in either of them.
I have asked old friends to be my groomsmen - a close local friend, my college roommate and the bass player and drummer from the band we had in college. All of the groomsmen but one live out of state.
My brothers and I all live in the same state within an hour or two of each other.
Do you think that they will understand? Should i ask them to usher?
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hello?
any advice? any coments? thoughts?
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Please go back and edit your post to include punctuation, (as per the rules no ALL CAPS) grammar and spelcheck. Also use the search to be sure that your question has not been answered previously. This will ensure an expert will answer in a timely manner. Thank you. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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haha.
really? that seems kind of pointless and petty, but ok.
here goes!
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Thank you for editing to make our jobs easier and to help alleviate wasted time. Our experts are all full-time wedding vendors and we all have family lives. We do this in our spare time as a service. None of us get paid. All of the proceeds that come from ads on the site are put back into a fund to pay for hosting services and website issues.
Our experts take the time to answer your posts for free so why is it petty to ask you to take some time to make their job easier? Please show your respect by taking the time to use proper spelling, grammar & punctuation.
This is not only important because improper spelling, grammar and punctuation can give a bad impression of you, it is also important for conveying the message properly. Posts with no full stops or commas, too many exclamation points and question marks are difficult to read and can sometimes even change the meaning of the post. ALL CAPS is read as yelling. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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Feb 26, 2008, 6:59 PM
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Capital letters at the beginning of sentences would be nice as well.
You can choose anyone you wish to be attendants. Whether or not your brothers will understand or not, cannot be determined until you make your decision. It is your choice to ask them to be ushers, but they may feel slighted if asked to be an usher and not a groomsman. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
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Dear god.
I'm not trying to impress YOU.
Note: the word "you" in the above sentence was in all caps because I yelled it.
Perhaps you should try focusing on content and WEDDING etiquette and abandon the nettiquette policing.
Note: On the internet (which is where your site exists and Where people post in conversational tones and aren't necessarily using a writing style manual for reference), pointing out spelling/punctuation/grammar flaws in a post is usually considered petty and mean..and yes, pointless.
Delete me and my post.
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Another member of the ME generation. Sigh.
Perhaps YOU should get your head out from up your own behind. YOU are not entitled to receive free advice. And, since you're so unappreciate we will go ahead and remove your user. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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Feb 27, 2008, 10:17 AM
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Expecting proper grammar and punctuation is not petty, pointless, or mean. It is only simple, good manners for people to use them, so we expect it. It is very difficult to read "content" that isn't in proper form. Perhaps it doesn't matter to you, which is fine. But, it matters to those who must try to decipher your code.
And, netiquette is spelled as such. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
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