I have a problem, apologies in advance for the length of this post. I met my fiancee in February, and things moved quickly, and we are getting married in November. In the process of planning I have been in contact with 2 of my best friends that I grew up with, one which I had lost contact with for a couple years and BOTH are coming out. I also have a brother. The issue is that my Fiancee seems to think that her brother must be a groomsman but only wants me to use 3 people. I have no ill will towards him, but he really is not one of my closest friends, and I don't want to hurt any feelings, but she has been telling him that he would be one of my groomsmen. I brought up that I didn't think it was fair for me to have to choose between my best friends and my brother, and could tell she was hurt. Am I out of line, and is it truly an obligation to use him in this capacity? Or is it my day too, and I should be able to pick who I want to stand by me? I can tell that one of my friends will be hurt if I leave them out.
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Why are you limited to 4 groomsmen? Seems to me, a simple fix would be to just add another groomsmen, no?
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Jul 27, 2005, 5:23 PM
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That is what I suggested, but she wanted it to be symmetrical and have even amounts of people on each side. After talking it over, and saying I felt like she would if I asked her to remove a friend she saw it my way and will let us have an extra guy. Thanks for the speedy reply though...
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Sounds like you worked that out just fine! Now you're on your way to a happy married life! Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
Do I have to use my fiance's Brother???
