I am getting married in July 2007 and I am trying to get my groomsmen situation settled. I have chosen my best friend to be my best man and I am completely happy with this. I've also chosen my oldest brother to be a groomsmen, which I'm also happy with. The problem I'm having is with my third groomsmen.
I've asked a good friend to be my third groomsmen. He and I go back a long way and are fairly close. However, lately he's been missing events and not showing up when he says he is going to. Currently, I haven't seen him in over a month, even though we live in the same city.
I talked to my third groomsmen yesterday, and he said he was definitely coming up, but then he no showed again. I don't know how I should deal with him. I do think he would be at all the wedding related events and would definitely be at the actual wedding, but his no shows are causing me a lot of concern.
So should I talk to him about it? Should I downgrade him from being a groomsmen? Is it even possible to downgrade someone when they're not showing up to events?
I really don't know what to do. I don't have an obvious replacement for him. And he's a good friend of mine, so I don't know what to do.
I recommend you simply voice your concerns to your groomsmen. Maybe he has a good reason for all the missed events.
As far as 'downgrading' him, you asked him to be in the wedding and he has accepted. So unless something grossly inappropriate happens, he, and you are committed to this agreement. Rhonda Allen, Bridal Consultant New Beginnings Weddings
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