My husband's brother is getting married, the first engagement my BIL called and asked DH (dear Husband) to be the Best Man. The wedding never happened- called off 1 month before the wedding. Now the two are re-Engaged According to their wedding website my DH is the best man, but was never really asked. I feel that they should ASK him to be the best man not assume he is going to be, being as he doesn't support the wedding, any advice on handling. I am sure he will be the best man, but respect and etiquette I feel he should be Asked. Also on the website they list things about him: where he works, Where he when to school and where we live and 1/2 of it isn't right, I feel that they should have asked to post that information before doing so. Am I outta line? (we really don't get along with the Bride to be) Any advice on how to handle this situation? Is all etiqutte lost?
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expertplanner
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Aug 1, 2005, 10:04 AM
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Dear Jessica:
This is more about tact then it is etiquette. Recommend to your husband that he speak with his brother. It sounds like he is honored that he's been selected for the role but would rather have been asked formally. He should say that and there's no getting around saying it directly. Also, the personal information on their website about your husband needs to be taken down. Where he lives, eats and sleeps (just a figure of speech) isn't relevant to their wedding.
As far as not getting along with the Bride to be, try and find a way to be cordial to her. After all, she may very well get married to your future BIL this time and then will be part of the family. Once that happens, the dynamics change and you don't want your husband and his brother and wife to be fueding. Rhonda Allen, Bridal Consultant New Beginnings Weddings
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Aug 1, 2005, 10:12 AM
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Thank you for your advice. The Bride to be and I haven't really gotten along the whole 5 years that my husband and I have been together/dating. I have told my husband and his brother that I will never get in the way of their relationship , kind of hard to do their Identical Twins, and that hard part is the Bride and I have the same name , crazy we know.
Being around the Bride -To - Be is like walking on egg shells for everyone, not just me. Atleast they are over 600 miles away. She has admitted to being in Counseling so hopefully things will get better, I try to stay positive and keep contact to a minimum, and very general. Seems to be working. Thanks again for your help. I appreciate it.
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Aug 1, 2005, 10:17 AM
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You are welcome. You've got the right attitude about this and that's half the battle. Rhonda Allen, Bridal Consultant New Beginnings Weddings
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According to their wedding website my DH is the best man, but was never really asked. I feel that they should ASK him to be the best man not assume he is going to be, being as he doesn't support the wedding, any advice on handling. I am sure he will be the best man, but respect and etiquette I feel he should be Asked. Also on the website they list things about him: where he works, Where he when to school and where we live and 1/2 of it isn't right, I feel that they should have asked to post that information before doing so. Am I outta line? (we really don't get along with the Bride to be) Any advice on how to handle this situation? Is all etiqutte lost? 
