bride and groom ask for large joint gift from groomsmen
My boyfriend and I are attending the wedding of our very good friends. He is a groomsmen in the wedding and we have already spent quite a bit of money on a wedding gift, not to mention shower gifts, his tux and hotel rooms for the destination wedding. The future bride (and one of our best friends) told us last week that it is customary for the groomsmen to go in together to purchase a very large gift for the groom in addition to the traditional wedding gift. Her suggestion: a big screen plasma television. This would cost the groomsmen about $400-$500 each. It is my opinion that not only is this NOT customary, it was also in poor taste for her to even suggest it. Am I completely off base here? I don't want them to be disappointed when they don't get their wish, but this seems very excessive.
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Sep 5, 2006, 2:54 PM
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Re: [weddingguest83] bride and groom ask for large joint gift from groomsmen
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Your insticts are correct. Gifts should be decided upon by the groomsmen. If they decide to give a group gift it is their choice of what to give.
I say - let them be disappointed. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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Sep 5, 2006, 4:35 PM
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Me too. Jeez. That is very inappropriate. Plus, you only needed to give one shower gift. Additionally what is traditional and expected is for the couple to pay for your hotel room.
They can buy their own television! Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
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