My sister is getting married and I am the matron of honor. She is having 7 bridesmaids including myself and her fiance's sister. Her fiance is having the same number of groomsmen including my brother, his brother and his sister's husband. The only one not included is my husband who they have decided to make a reader and not a groomsmen.
Consequently this has hurt my family and most importantly my husband who has been part of our family for over 10 years. Even my 2 young boys are going to be ringbearers. It just seems unfair to me that he would include one brother-in-law as part of the wedding party and not the other.
To me it is just setting the relationship off on the wrong foot. In 20 years my husband will be a part of his life but I am not so sure about the rest of his friends/groomsmen.
HELP - am I being too sensitive?
Etiquette Now
WEDDING ETIQUETTE EXPERT
Jan 19, 2005, 11:27 AM
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Re: [burger] brother in law not included
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Dear Brother in law,
I'm sorry this happened. Perhaps your future brother in law does not realize that he could have more groomsmen than his bride has bridesmaids. However, asking your husband to read is an honor also. This isn't as if your husband is not involved at all. I hope you and your husband can move past this. I'm sure it wasn't meant to be a slight.
brother in law not included
