I am the sister-in-law of the groom...who does not like me.
Him and his fiance have been together for 6yrs. In those 6 years we have met the bride-to-be on 3 different occasions...We have never spent a holiday together with the two of them....They don't acknowledge our 4 children on birthdays or other special occasions. All of us live in the same city 4 blocks from eachother.
The happy couple will be tying the knot on Oct. 14, 2006. They have asked my husband and our 7yr old daughter to be in the wedding.
I called the bride-to-be to discuss my feeling of us spending this much money on flower girl, and tux for two people who don't treat us like family and that I felt they are asking alot of us.
I have since been uninvited to the wedding because I refuse to have my 7yr old participate in the wedding because of the ill feelings.
my brother-in-law has put my husband in a situation to chose him over me..My husband says he isn't going to the wedding if I am not able to attend. (I am personally OK with the grooms choice..it is his wedding, however, my husband is very hurt over this)
Is it wrong of the Groom to expect his brother (my husband) to be a guest at his wedding? Considering in the 6yrs he and his fiance have been together they have NEVER treated us like family and they still continue to exclude us because of his ill feelings toward me. This even includes the children
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edited by in-or-out on Sep 13, 2006, 1:49 PM)
yvonne"instep"
Social Worker, Stepmother, Certified Stepfamily Counsellor
It sounds like you weren't being excluded initially, as your husband and daughter were asked to be in the wedding party and you were invited as a guest. You have subsequently been un-invited due to continued conflict and tension, now revolving around the costs involved of your daughter and husband being in the wedding party. There's obviously a lot more going on here than meets the eye.
Bottomline, despite your differences, you were all initially invited to be at the wedding - and continued conflict has resulted in this new situation. Regardless of whether it's justifiable for them to un-invite you at this point or not, this is what has happened. This is your husband's family so it needs to be his choice as to whether or not he will participate without you there and it sounds like he has chosen not to. It's an incredibly unfortunate situation but it sounds like your husband has made up his mind and I doubt that the "happy couple" are going to change theirs. Yvonne Kelly, MSW, RSW, Certified Stepfamily Counsellor and Coach, Co-Founder and Director of the Step and Blended Family Institute http://www.stepinstitute.ca
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