My wedding is at the end of the year. I was planning to have my two brothers and my two oldest friends comprise the wedding party. But another friend of mine, who I have not been as close with in the past couple of years, asked me to be a groomsman in his wedding this summer. He is having six groomsmen in addition to his best man.
If I do not reciprocate, I'm sure he will be offended. But, at the same time, it's almost an insult to my brothers and best friends to put him in the same category. Also, my fiance and I really wanted to keep the wedding parties small.
I'm leaning towards biting the bullet and asking him to be a groomsman, because ultimately it isn't worth risking our friendship. If I were going to expand to five or six, as he did, he would certainly be included. I just know, this is going to bug me.
If you haven't accepted his invitation yet you might tell him that, athough delighted to be asked, you have concerns since, due to your extensive family, limited space, etc, that you would not be able to reciprocate. See what his reaction is. He may say, "Hey, no problem, my friend" or he may say "I understand completely if you cannot be a prt of my wedding".
Let us know what he says. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
I had already agreed to be in his wedding party. I guess that's the fundamental questionL by agreeing to be in someone's wedding party does that obligate you to invite that person to be in yours?
No, you should never feel obligated to ask anyone to be in your wedding party just becuse they asked you. Is it possible for you to speak with this friend and explain things? Let him know how much you would have wanted to ask him and maybe offer him another part like doing a reading or handing out the programs? Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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