I'm sorry if this question has been asked, but I could not find it on the lists.... I am a bridesmaid and need to know if I am out of line regarding the topic below.
The one thing that has put me over the edge: can I tell the mother of the bride that it is NOT appropriate to invite guests to the shower and then not to the wedding (even though the guest was never on the wedding guest list)?
She seems to think that a B-List guest who was invited because there were too many "No's" should not be invited to the wedding. I am dumbfounded as to how she can be so ignorant and ill-mannered. Please keep in mind that she invited one person who was NOT on the wedding guest list at all, but wanted a "better turn out" for the shower. I want to let her know that it's too late now, this person should be invited to the wedding. By the way, the wedding is 3 months away and invites have not been sent out yet.
Any response is very much appreciated.
Thank you.
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WEDDING ETIQUETTE EXPERT
Jun 22, 2007, 12:55 PM
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Re: [lmc242004] B-List Shower Guest Not Invited to Wedding?
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Dear Lmc,
The simple solution is to take the list and discard it. She doesn't invite or plan. She shouldn't be involved in the hosting of this at all. She can give you a list of those the bride would like invited who 'are' invited to the wedding. But, that is the extent of it. The host decides who is invited.
No more than 35 should be invited and that is the max. We don't want this turning into a reception like event.
All of this information is in every etiquette book and this site. So, if she has a problem with your planning you can point her in our direction.
B-List Shower Guest Not Invited to Wedding?
