I am the Matron of Honor for my sister's wedding. She plans to hold it in Puerto Rico where the groom's family lives. All invitees are traveling far to attend. The only other person in the bridal party is the groom's sister, who is a young teenager and unable to pay for party expenses. Two of my sister's friends who are attending the wedding, and who live in Puerto Rico, offered to help organize the bridal shower/party, because it is too hard to organize everything from so far away (I live in DC). I have ordered and sent the invites, made the favors, and they are planning the games. It is being held at an upscale restaurant and they have communicated that every time there is a shower/bachlorette party..everyone orders their own food and drinks and pays their own way.
How do I communicate that on the invites? The invitations are in the shape of a nightie, since my sister wants a Lingerie Shower. I was going to include a separate paper communicating information on the restaurant, maybe including pricing, etc. What is the correct wording for this. In all other showers I've planned, the bridesmaids have split all costs..however, this time it is just not possible.
Please advise.
Thanks,
Alex
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Aug 10, 2005, 6:30 PM
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Re: [aycajones] BridalShower/Bachlorette Party Paying Etiquette
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Dear Alex,
I have no idea, because in our culture it is insulting to ask guests to host the host's party, especially if they are also expected to give a gift. This is considered inappropriate.
We believe that if the party is to be held in a restaurant, all costs should be covered by the host. Because these ladies say that this isn't the case in Puerto Rico, perhaps they should write the invites. There really is no polite way I can think of to do this.
BridalShower/Bachlorette Party Paying Etiquette
