Is it the bridesmaids responsibility to contact the MOH with regards to planning the Bridal Shower? The MOH and MOB planned the bridal shower and sent the bridesmaids an invitation. Their reasoning was that the bridesmaids should have contacted the MOH in order to be included on the planning. The bride has taken this stance as well. On the invitation, it states "Hosted By" and list the MOH and MOB names. Is this proper etiquette? Is it the responsibility of the bridesmaids to track down the MOH in order to be included? I thought the MOH was the coordinator, but all planned according to her direction.
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Re: [longside12] Bridal Shower - Bridesmaids left out of planning
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The bridal shower is an optional party which can be planned by any of the bridal party members or by anyone not related to the bridal couple. If the maid of honor chose to host this shower it is her responsibility, if she wants help, to contact the bridal party members and ask them if they want to be involved. Anyone accepting will then go on to discuss how the event will be planned and what each can afford to spend. The group discusses and plans the event together. So, if the maid of honor did not call you, how could you know there was a shower being planned? She should not have assumed you wanted to be included and should not expect help. However, it would be very generous if you could contact the maid of honor and offer your help now, explaining that you read all of this in an etiquette forum. You can send the maid of honor to most any reputable etiquette book for confirmation.
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Bridal Shower - Bridesmaids left out of planning
