I was invited to a bridal shower for a friend's fiancee. Due to a special situation, they are having a small wedding, family only, and then a BBQ to celebrate their union with friends.
The bride verbally informed me about the BBQ, which unfortunately I won't be able to attend because I had already made plans for out of state travel before the date of this event was set. I have not received a formal invitation, but I don't know if they are not sending formal invitations, or if I wasn't invited because the bride knew I couldn't come.
Should I buy two presents - one for the shower, and a separate wedding present? Or would one, that I bring to the shower, suffice? The shower invitation included information about where the couple is registered.
You shouldn't have been invited to the shower since only those invited to the wedding should be invited. This means the ceremony, not the reception.
But, if you have already agreed to attend you should bring a gift. If you are not attending the wedding, many etiquette experts still feel it is obligatory to send a gift. Personally, I think it's a matter of choice and if you decide to send a gift it should be selected and based on your relationship with the couple and as your budget defines. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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