I am one of five bridesmaids in a wedding in September. I am having problems with the MOH and planning the bridal shower. The MOH started planning the shower about 7 months in advance and insisted on having the shower at the bride's house. I don't know the MOH very well, so I tried to convince her that the bride is the guest of honor and she should not have to clean for her shower. On top of that, the bride is living with her fiance. I don't think it's very appropriate to have the shower at the bride's house. I offered up a few other shower location options (the clubhouse in my community, a restaurant, another bridesmaid's house, etc.). However, the MOH would listen to nothing that I said.
Recently, the bride has told me how stressed out she has been...especially when she learned her future in-laws (5 in total) will be staying with her and her fiance the weekend of the shower.
Another friend of the bride and me from college recently bought a house in the same area as the bride's house and offered to have the shower at her house. The bride was thrilled to have a another place for the shower. The MOH threw a fit and said she will be "uncomfortable" going into a stranger's house to set up for the shower, and now the bride doesn't want to hurt the MOH's feelings.
Is there anyway to tell the MOH that she is selfish and to deal with being "uncomfortable" for the bride's sake?
I think you'll just have to tell her exactly what you told us here. Plus, you can tell her that it is not appropriate to host this event in the home of the bride since it is a gift giving event and will appear as if the bride is hosting, which is a big no-no.
Send her to us if you need to. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
So now what? Apparently, the MOH is missing the common sense gene. Her most recent "great idea" is to move the shower to her house, which is about an hour and a half away from the bride and most of the guests that will attend the shower.
The bride was able to steer her away from that idea. However, that means that the shower is back at the bride's house. It's really frustrating because this is the first wedding event of many. And, I don't know how I'm going to deal with this girl.
This is the 4th wedding that I've been in and the 8th wedding that I've been involved in (engagement party, bridal shower, bachelorette party, rehearsal dinner, etc.) over the past 2 years. And I thought I've put up with the worst...this girl isn't even the bride.
I guess I have to leave it alone...just to keep the peace.
I suppose you could leave it alone or just ask her to at least try to read some of our posts, include the phrase that you don't want her or the bride to be embarrassed by committing a social faux pas. Maybe that might help. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
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