4 Aunts offered to give a wedding shower for our niece several weeks ago and have just today been asked to do so by the bride on pretty short notice. (MOH is only 16, so we knew she would be too young to deal with so we offered). Biggest problem is that all 4 of us live 50 to 200 miles away from Bride/wedding location and we needed warning to find a facility -- we didn't get fair warning so now we're trying to figure out location. MOG offered her house. We didn't ask, she offered. We feel really funny about using her home, although we would make it clear to her that she was not to do any of the work, it is still a lot of work just preparing your home for so many guests.
HELP! Is it horrible, horrible etiquette for us to have this at MOG's house? (We already know it was horrible horrible etiquette for bride to put us in this spot, but for her mother's sake and sanity we'll work it out somehow.) We're under serious time crunch to get this organized and just don't know what to do!
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Re: [Lesmiserable] Bridal shower at MOG's house ok?
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Dear Lesmiserable,
Well, we have many posts concerning this and the advice and rules haven't changed for anyone. The bride the mothers don't request, don't offer to plan or host, and they don't expect this optional party. Family should not host unless they are also attendants. This should be a small, intimate party, so there shouldn't be that many guests. Guests must also be guest to the wedding and close to the couple.
So, none of you should be hosting and it shouldn't be held at the MOG's home. Now, if you had been one of the attendants and no one knew that it was the MOG's home, there wouldn't be a problem.
Please read our many posts on why this is so important and why we have shower etiquette. This is especially important these days since so many opt for a giftless shower if any.
Bridal shower at MOG's house ok?
