After playing games at my soon to be sister-in-law's shower the winners were each given a small wrapped gift. Several days after the shower my mother learned that the brides sister, who hosted the shower, had expected the winners to give their gifts to the bride not keep them. Is this a common practice and should the sister have informed the guests of her expectations?
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I have never heard of this tradition, so, it's possible these guests haven't either. I don't think it's proper, or nice, to give a gift to a guest then expect that they hand it over to the bride, especially since they already arrived with a gift for the bride. Anyway, what's done is done. It's a tiny issue that should be forgotten. But, if you're going to be hosting any showers in the future, I would not give gifts to the guests which had to be handed over to the bride. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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It is so far from what is considered "traditional" it is no wonder that guests were confused. It simply doesn't make sense to give someone a gift or "prize" and then expect it to be given back. I would avoid this practice too. Shayna Walker, Williamsburg Wedding Design http://www.williamsburgweddingdesign.com
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I haven't heard of this tacky trend either and find it a bit disturbing. As young children we learn not to give something to someone and take it back. It isn't polite. And, it wasn't polite for the bride's sister's expectation to be known after the fact.
Please don't feel guilty about keeping the gift. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
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