After getting very little response to a shower that I was going to throw the bride (three responses total) I had no choice but to cancel (one of the guests had a last minute emergency) I am trying to throw something together for her. The responses were from 2 men and one woman, which I thought would be odd for a shower in the first place. None of the guest are family members (the bride's family never got back to me with names or address and I do not know the groom's side). I was thinking out making it a congratulations party for the bride and groom. I really would like to throw the bride something. Would it be proper to hold if the groom is not present? He is rather unsocial and I know that there are no circumstances that would make him attend. Or should I give up on this whole idea since I have so little response? She has had all this planned her whole life and I know that she will be greatly disappointed. If I have it, how do I address the fact that there are no family members? Do I lie and tell her that I forgot, or do I tell her the truth? She has told me time and time again that she wants a huge shower, but how can I give her one when there is noone that will attend? I know that she is having a work shower and I know for a fact that no family members are having a shower for her. They actually came to me about it in the beginning but never responded back. I know that time is limited since the wedding is in 2 weeks, but I want to try to do something.
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Jul 10, 2007, 11:12 AM
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Sounds like you've done all you can. Showers are optional events and you are not obligated to host one anyway. And, huge showers are not appropriate. It's a little late to put a shower together at this point. Hopefully the bride will be happy with her workplace shower. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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Jul 10, 2007, 11:33 AM
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I completely agree. And, perhaps the reason you are having a difficult time with responses is that many are rebelling against the traditional gift giving shower. Many guests do not like being told that they must give two wedding gifts. So, it may be best to let this one go. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
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Jul 10, 2007, 1:10 PM
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Thank you both for your kind advice. I am deeply saddened that I can't give her what she has been dreaming about, even if they have only been engaged for a few weeks.
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Jul 10, 2007, 1:21 PM
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Hopefully, what she is really dreaming of is marrying the perfect man for her and living happily ever after. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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