My cousin's bridal shower is being given by the bridal party, her cousins (including me) and her aunts. We are having it at my mom's house and we had decided on a menu, until the bride decided to change it. We are upset because we are willing to change the menu, but her demands are ridiculous. I understand that you should serve something the bride likes, but is the bride supposed to be completely in charge of the menu of a shower being given in her honor?
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Actually, most etiquette experts agree that a shower shouldn't be hosted by these relatives, except for the bridal party members. So, I would try to get the aunts out of the picture, if you can do it without ruffling any feathers.
At this point, just don't let the bride get involved in any of the planning anymore. Just continue with your planning which includes sticking within your budget and menu choices as originally planned. If she asks, just say it's all going to be a nice big surprise for her and then drop it. Don't ask - don;t tell. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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I absolutely agree. Plus, there is something here that makes me go "hummmm". All of these people came together to host? The shower should be a small, intimate affair, with no more than 35 (max) guests. I can't imagine it requiring such a large group of hosts.
Please read our many posts on bridal shower etiquette. This should be hosted very carefully so as not to appear greedy. After all, these guests will be invited to the wedding and, if they attend, will be giving the couple a wedding gift. So, these guests giving the couple two gifts just because the couple is marrying could be viewed as over the top.
Be as careful as you can at this point. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
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