I am a bridesmaid for one of my closest friends. The other bridesmaids are her 3 sisters of which one is the MOH. I was a bride last year and have a knack for throwing amazing celebrations and showers for my friend, which the bride knows.
Several months ago, I started asking for her guest list for her shower as well as contact information for the other bridesmaids because I had not heard from anyone.I have met her sisters and they have always been friendly however none of us live in the bride's state. When the bride sent the list she copied the MOH who immediately called me and advised me that although she knows the bride would like a shower no one is planning one and they want to get together with the bride a day or two before the wedding for an informal gathering. I asked if I could participate or help in any way with the planning and was told no. The MOH finally said if I wanted to do something I could do it myself.
I have the resources to throw the shower myself and planned a lovely event with amazing invitations however most of the guest list is the bride's family (she has a small list and only a few friends listed). The shower is next week and only two people have RSVP'd and they were both friends.No one in the bride or grooms families, including the brides mother who I have met and spoken with on MANY occasions has even bothered to contact me. I feel uncomfortable throwing a shower with only 2 guests however I know my friend deserves something very special and not thrown together.
What do I do? Do I go ahead with the limited guest list assuming no one just rudely shows up or do I cancel the shower? I do not have phone numbers to follow up and truly feel as though her sisters advised everyone not to attend. I already have my plane ticket and have planned a great girls weekend with the bride anyway.Help!
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This isn't too surprising. Many are now feeling that the traditional gift giving shower is not necessary and not fair for guests--double gifting.
It may be best to cancel with so few guests. This means that you would have to contact all of them (hopefully not more than 35) as soon as possible to announce this.
There are other ways to make this time special for the bride that doesn't include guests giving her extra wedding gifts. Just spending time with her is special. Your girl's weekend should be perfect.
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