Bridesmaid can't attend shower but is expected to pay
I am a bridesmaid for my brother's wedding. I will be out of town on the day of the shower but have been asked to help pay for the reserved room, the decorations, the prizes and the food. The maid of honor called the night before the other bridesmaids were going to get together to plan everything. A can't attend the planning either on such short notice. What am I obligated to pay for? I don't want to cause any friction between myself and the bridesmaids.
Thank you,
Worried
TWQadmin
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Jun 27, 2005, 11:00 PM
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Bridesmiads are not obliged to help pay for the bridal shower. The hostess can ask if you'd like to help plan and pay for the shower, bit you are not expected to pay. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
mwolfe13
Jul 1, 2005, 10:16 PM
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Now, how do I tell the maid of honor this without sounding defensive and without causing a problem for the bride?
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Jul 2, 2005, 3:53 PM
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As with any communication, it is best to be as honest and candid as possible. If you use a neutral tone of voice and state that you cannot afford it, or whatever reason you may have, the news should be received well. Hopefully.
But, as the Wedding Queen stated you are not obligated to 'pay-up'. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
Bridesmaid can't attend shower but is expected to pay
