My little brother is getting married in August. He and his fiancee and all her family and friends live several hundred miles away. My sister and I are in the wedding party. Today we both received an email from the matron of honor who is in the process of planning the bridal shower. She has decided to host the shower at the same restaurant where the rehearsal dinner will be held; this place is a bit pricy, but it's her choice. She has asked the bridesmaids to contribute $250 a piece to cover the cost of lunch, cake, invitations, favors, gifts, decorations, etc. My sister and I are both flying in for the wedding from other parts of the country and are incurring a lot of expenses already (flight, hotel, dress, etc); we simply cannot attend the shower or contribute what the MOH is asking. I have never been to a shower where the bridesmaids were asked to contribute this amount of money. We have already expressed that we can't attend but we have now been asked if we can still put in the money.
Any thoughts?
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You are not obligated to finance an optional event such as a bridal shower, unless you agreed to this beforehand.
A bridal shower (please read the many, many other posts on showers) is supposed to be an informal gathering of the couple's nearest and dearest and not a mini-reception.
You will probably want to explain why you won't be attending though. Just tell your brother that you'd love to attend but the miles just do not allow. Send your best wishes.
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I agree - advise her that you are not able to contribute that much, and tell her how you feel you can help. Shayna Walker, Williamsburg Wedding Design http://www.williamsburgweddingdesign.com
Bridesmaids cannot afford to host bridal shower
