Our son is marrying into a more affluent family. Our family received invitiations to a Bridal shower. To go we need to pay $25 per person to attend. Some members of the family could only afford to purchase a $25-35 gift. Is this normal now?
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Apr 25, 2005, 11:57 AM
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Re: [bessie1973] Charging for Shower
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Dear Charging,
No, this is not normal now. It is distasteful. This is beyond impolite. I call this the 'Great American Gift Grab' and, this one is one for the books. Charging a fee??? Hosts host, which means that they pay for the party. Guests should never be expected to act as hosts, or pay.
I don't know what you do with this information though. The people hosting this won't know that they are committing a major social faux pas. I just hope that it doesn't escalate from here with the wedding coming up.
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There is no law that says you cannot be busy on the day of the shower. You can choose not to attend or, if you do attend, bring a homemade gift (if you're handy or crafty). The gift doesn't have to be expensive, just that is comes from the heart is enough.
Perhaps a friend of the groom (not a family member) could host a shower for you and your family and friends to attend? I'm not suggesting you ask anyone but maybe if a little birdie let this information escape.... ??? Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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