Hi, My friend is hosting her own bridal shower and everyone who is invited to the wedding is invited to the Bridal Shower (about 300 people). She is also charging $40 per couple $21 per person and $10.00 per child. (Charging for a shower is very common among Hispanics in South Florida, VERY common). My parents are hispanic and I think its totally rude and inappropriate. I have told my friend how I feel about it and she told me that if I didnt charge people for my bridal shower that I should not expect to have it in a restaurant or banquet hall, that I would have to have it my backyard. She also keeps on telling me how she has spent $100 on gifts for her friends showers and I feel like she's insinuating I should spend that much on hers. I cannot spend more than $40 -$50 being that I have to pay for my seat, I am also a bridesmaid and I have had to spend money for that. I feel like my friend is trying to get the most out of everyone (i know for a fact she is making a profit on the shower, she is charging more than what it really costs), her and her fiancee are acting like everyone has to bow down to them because they are getting married, they have already had problems with some of thier closest friends because of this.
Anyways, has anyone ever heard of this being proper etiquette? Inviting all the wedding guests to the bridal shower and on top of that charging??
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All of this is inappropriate.
You are not obligated to host this shower. I would simply tell the bride that you refuse to have anything to do with something so tacky.
And then, with any luck, she'll ask you to step down as bridesmaid and you can leave this "friendship" and horroe behind. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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Jul 19, 2007, 12:57 PM
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LOL..I am seriously considering that! Now I know why so many people backed out on being her bridesmaids..
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Jul 19, 2007, 1:06 PM
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Okay, here's what you do - ready?
Get a large shoehorn and a pint jar of vaseline. Hand it to the bride and say, "These are to help you remove your head from up your own butt". It's obvious that you cannot be seeing clearly".
Well, maybe just do it in your mind and enjoy the experience. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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Too funny! As an etiquette professional I couldn't say that. But believe me, I was thinking it.
It is unfortunate that so many in your community do this, but it isn't uncommon for a new tradition or trend to begin that isn't proper just because someone does it and it seems to benefit them. One person does it and 'gets away with it'...and another...and another... . Soon, many in the community feel that it is the 'new etiquette'. Well, it isn't.
Hopefully you can begin a new and improved trend based on what is considered appropriate and proper and of course in good taste.
Charging for a Bridal Shower and 300 guests
Hi, My friend is hosting her own bridal shower and everyone who is invited to the wedding is invited to the Bridal Shower (about 300 people). She is also charging $40 per couple $21 per person and $10.00 per child. (Charging for a shower is very common among Hispanics in South Florida, VERY common). My parents are hispanic and I think its totally rude and inappropriate. I have told my friend how I feel about it and she told me that if I didnt charge people for my bridal shower that I should not expect to have it in a restaurant or banquet hall, that I would have to have it my backyard. She also keeps on telling me how she has spent $100 on gifts for her friends showers and I feel like she's insinuating I should spend that much on hers. I cannot spend more than $40 -$50 being that I have to pay for my seat, I am also a bridesmaid and I have had to spend money for that. I feel like my friend is trying to get the most out of everyone (i know for a fact she is making a profit on the shower, she is charging more than what it really costs), her and her fiancee are acting like everyone has to bow down to them because they are getting married, they have already had problems with some of thier closest friends because of this. 
