The ladies in my church want to throw a bridal shower for me. I would love to have all of my church come to my wedding, but my fiance and I are on a tight budget. I don't think they'll take no for an answer...
There are also a few ladies in the church that do floral work and offered to do my flowers and such for me, as well as help set up tables and decorations for my reception.
Should I try to decline having the shower because I cannot possibly invite all the ladies and their husbands? Is it OK to invite only the ladies that are helping me with the flowers and such?
I would invite the church to my ceremony only, but the reception is on the same grounds and I think it would be akward and rude for some people to stay for the reception and some people to have to go home.
expertplanner
BRIDAL CONSULTANT
Aug 16, 2005, 6:25 PM
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Re: [groseen] Church Shower and No Wedding?
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Dear Groseen:
Yes, it is very bad etiquette to invite some guests to the ceremony and not the reception. Therefore, seeing that money is an issue here, if you choose to have the ceremony and reception at this location, you will find that you'll have some tough decisions to make on who gets invited.
Perhaps the better solution is for you to find an alternative site for your ceremony and reception, provided you can find one that suits your needs. This way you don't have the stress of trying to decide who from the church gets invited.
As for the shower, if they want to throw you a shower, I think that's very nice and you should go. It's still a special event.
Best wishes, Rhonda Allen, Bridal Consultant New Beginnings Weddings
Etiquette Now
WEDDING ETIQUETTE EXPERT
Aug 16, 2005, 8:05 PM
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I completely agree. One thing that I would add is that anyone who is invited to the shower, must be invited to the wedding. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
groseen
Aug 17, 2005, 1:23 PM
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But if I have no control over the guest list, how can I "take the reigns" in saying who can and can't attend the shower? The pastor's wife is organizing this.
My bridesmaids are throwing me a separate shower that will only include people invited to the wedding.
Etiquette Now
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Aug 17, 2005, 1:30 PM
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The only thing you can do is to request that the pastor's wife only invite those who are invited to the wedding. Other than that... smile and say thank you.
Hopefully you can gain some control. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
Church Shower and No Wedding?
