A friend of mine is getting married in March in a faraway place which all of us bridesmaids will have to pay for our own hotel rooms, etc. Well, another friend of mine and me are wanting to have a couples shower for her and her fiance. But, we are both on tight budgets and will be spending even more money once we get to the wedding 400 miles away! Do you have any ideas on inexpensive ways to have one and would it be improper etiquette to have a cash bar, and explain to me exactly what a cash bar is. Also, would it be tacky to ask the fiance's sister to help with funding the shower, she won't be a host, or would she? Help needed desperately!
Thanks,
Tight Budget
Nancy Tucker
PRESIDENT - WEDDINGS BEAUTIFUL
Dec 31, 2004, 11:55 AM
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Hello there,
The cost of being an attendant in a wedding is something that should always be considered when accepting the invitation to participate. You mentioned other bridesmaids. How many of them will contribute to a couples shower? I would rather see you have no bar than a cash bar. Serve punch or even a champagne punch can be cheaper than a full bar. A cash bar would be a full bar that your guests pay for each drink as ordered.
Unless the sister is a bridesmaid, she would be considered to be cohosting the shower and that is a no no. Nancy Tucker President of Weddings Beautiful US http://www.weddingsbeautiful.com
Etiquette Now
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Dec 31, 2004, 2:46 PM
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Dear Tight Budget,
It is too bad that this is not a destination wedding. The bride would be expected to pay for your lodgings. But, on to your question... To invite guests to a 'party' and expect them to pay for any part of it is not polite. So, it is best to host the party you can afford.
You could ask the families to provide food and drink (no one should know this), but you and your friend host the shower. Or, because there are many different styles of showers these days, you could host a game theme party. Everyone could play those loud team games and munch on chips and crackers. You could also host a party with no alcohol. This would reduce your costs considerably.
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You don't need a bar at all.
A shower is typically food and opening gifts. There's no dancing and no drinking. And the food usually consists of things like sandwiches with a cake or "finger foods" for desert. Have punch and pop for something to drink.
I did my sister's shower for only $30 and there was almost 50 people attending. I received alot of compliments on it (and still do almost 2 years after the fact). Fellow Bride
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