Our manager was recently married (second marriage.) She has had no showers for this wedding that was conducted at city hall in a private ceremony. We would like to have a luncheon/lingerie shower and invite co-workers and a few friends of the bride, total of about eleven guests. Would it be acceptable for me to provide the cake, flowers, decorations, invitations and reservation of a private dining room, but ask that the attendees cover their own lunch expense "dutch treat" on the invitation? We would order lunch from the menu at the event? I would be the only person to cover the expenses and your answer is appreciated.
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WEDDING ETIQUETTE EXPERT
Jul 9, 2005, 5:43 PM
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Re: [Cindy] Costs of Lingerie Shower for co-worker
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Dear Shower,
To have a shower after a wedding the reason would have to be a very good one. We always have to be careful with gift giving events to make sure that is will be viewed positively.
It would probably be better to call this a reception rather than a shower.
I'm sorry, it is never appropriate to ask your guests to pay for the party. Work related events often are, such as retirement parties. But, for a wedding related event, it isn't appropriate.
Because you are providing so much of the party, perhaps this could just be a cake and beverage affair and be held at someone's home. This would be so much better.
Costs of Lingerie Shower for co-worker
