A co-bridemaid and I are planning a couple shower for a friend. We received a rather extensive guest list from the bride with mostly couples and some single friends on the list. The other hostess would like to add "and guest" to the single guests invitations to make them feel more included at an event that will otherwise be couple focused. I feel that this takes away from the intimacy of the event by bringing in guests who may not be invited to the wedding. I also feel that it suggests that the invitees are expected to bring a guest and my not feel comfortable attending on their own (the list is a group of friends that should all know many other guests through the bride and groom). If the single guests will be invited "and guest" to the wedding, should we invite them with guest to the shower? The shower is a wine and dessert buffet at the hostess's home, so cost and space for the additional guests is not a huge concern.
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Mar 18, 2008, 2:12 PM
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Re: [PurpleHaze] Couple's Shower Guest List
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Dear PurpleHaze,
You are correct that only those invited to the wedding may be invited to the shower. So, it is best not to include the 'and guest'. Plus, this shouldn't be a huge event resembling a small reception. The intimacy factor is important. So, no more than 35 guests. Just because the bride gave you a list doesn't mean all must be invited. This should just be a guideline.
Couple's Shower Guest List
