One of my fiances best friends is getting married a month after us and a mutual friend of all of ours has offered to host a 'couple's shower' for us. We thought it would be a good idea to combine the two showers due to alot of duplicate guests and to cut down on expenses. However, there are about 7 people who are invited to the best friend's wedding and not to ours. These 7 people do know all of us though! The 7 people have known my fiance ALOT longer than I have known them so I am pretty impartial and don't really feel the awkwardness of it all. It is sort of an awkward situation for my fiance and his best friend...is there a way to get around the awkwardness? Should we go about as if the 7 people will think something of it? How should we handle this?
(My fiance' and I are having a smaller wedding than the other couple and didn't go too far out in our circles of friends for wedding guests...that is the reason for a majority of the 7 people not being invited to our wedding.)
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edited by a71lolo on Dec 30, 2004, 3:37 PM)
There is really no way to do this jointly without the 7 in question. To aleviate the awkwardness of the situation, be sure to interact with each of them at the shower and if the issue arises, explain your need to limit your numbers for your wedding. Nancy Tucker President of Weddings Beautiful US http://www.weddingsbeautiful.com
The etiquette rule here is that only those invited to the wedding are invited to the shower, so this is the awkwardness you feel. Some (your 7) will know that the rest of the guests have invitations to both weddings. This will be noticed. It is ultimately your choice what you do though.
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