My sister and her new husband want to have a contribute to a hot tub shower since they have combined two homes and have pretty much everything they need. How do I word that request on invitations without sounding tacky? And how do I put that each person pays for their own drinks at the restaurant? We (the 3 Maids) are willing to purchases appetizers for all to share but feel that a "bar tab" would be too much for us. HELP! I'm really lost. We've tried to tell the couple that even if they don't register they will get gifts anyway that they would be better off registering for something but they are stuck on this hot tub thing.
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Aug 26, 2005, 11:48 AM
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Re: [cole5225] Couples Shower at Restaurant
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Dear Sis,
There is no polite way to say either of these things. It isn't polite to ask for cash or to ask guests to host a shower.
It would be better for the couple to register with a hot tub supplier (gift cards in various denominations) and a few other stores for other items. The guests will want to make their own decision about how much to spend and on what. They will usually abide by a registry, but often bristle at the thought of being told exactly what to give.
If all of you cannot afford to pay for the entire trip to the restaurant, this party should be scaled down to be financially manageable. Many parties are held in someone's home.
Couples Shower at Restaurant
