My question was not answered. It is customary in this area to give a shower if you are a family member (not the mother) even if you are not in the wedding party. So this was not what has me concerned. My question was; is it rude to set the time of a shower so the bridal couple will still have time to go out dancing afterwards? Some of the guests at the shower would not particiapte in the dancing part of the evening. They would only be involved in the portion where the gifts are given. Thanks, Big Sis
I didn't see your first question, sorry. But, sisters shouldn't host showers even if it is customary in your area. People tend to just say, "Oh, my cousin did it so it must be appropriate." But, it is not.
The reason is very simple. Family members tend to want to try to get the most for their family, which is obvious. So, they can and tend to go a bit too far by asking too many people to a shower (guests see this as double gift dipping), or even charging a fee from the guests. Yes, this has all be done and is not correct.
But, this is not your question this time.
I have no idea what kind of shower you are talking about when dancing is involved. I am assuming that you are scheduling a couple's shower at night so some can go out dancing after the bridal shower. This is fine. Most guests would want something like this earlier rather than later anyway. So, I don't think it would be viewed as rude.
If you are hosting a shower, please remember that this is a party that you are hosting for the guests pleasure as much as for your sister. So, if they have come to give, they should receive something also. You have said that some are going to go dancing and some will not. Hopefully besides just staying and watching your sister open gifts, you have some refreshments for them also.
A shower is also a vehicle to help the guests feel as if they are part of the wedding planning process. This is why we try to keep the party small, intimate, with friends and family who are invited to the wedding.
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