I am hosting a shower for my cousin. Her parents are divorced and when I requested a list of people to invite to our side of the family shower, she included all of her dad's family, including her step mother. The list has grown to 40+ people and I'm thinking of contacting the matron of honor, her step sister, to ask if they plan to host a shower for her on their side of the family. Thoughts? Also, my house cannot accomodate that many people. My cousin has also listed several people that live out of state that I know will not make it to the shower, do we still invite them? Finally, she has listed some of our male relatives that won't make it to the wedding, much less a shower, do I bother asking her about this? I don't know if she just doesn't know who is appropriate to invite, or if she is just trying to include everyone? Please help!
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Jun 24, 2007, 4:16 PM
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Re: [cousinJane] Family Showers and guests
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Dear CousinJane,
This is unfortunate, but you really shouldn't be hosting as you are family and not part of the bridal party. But it is what it is.
Only those invited to the wedding may be invited to the shower, so as long as they are invited to the wedding they may be invited to your shower. But, the shower shouldn't include more than 35 guests and that is the maximum. We don't want this to appear to be a small reception. You are the host and can ask for only the closest 35 people she wishes to be invited. These should be those very close to her and her fiance.
Family Showers and guests
