Future mother in law and sister in laws do not rsvp to shower or acknowledge
I had a shower in which my future mother in law and sister in laws were invited to. None of them cared to rsvp or send a note or gift acknowledging the shower. His side of the family is not having a shower for me. This is the only shower I am having. In the end, I am upset by their lack of response and/or acknowledgement to the shower that they were invited to. Are future mother in laws and sister in laws suppose to be invited to the shower? How should I take them not responding? A relative threw the shower for me because I live out of town and is hurt by their lack of response too.
Thanks for your comments!
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May 6, 2005, 12:59 PM
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Re: [kmis] Future mother in law and sister in laws do not rsvp to shower or acknowledge
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Dear Miffed,
Yours is one of the few cases where a family member hosting a shower is acceptable. Sometimes it is difficult when the bride lives out of town.
It is in poor taste not to respond to an invitation. Traditionally they should have sent a gift also. I'm not a believer in that part of the tradition. But, that is neither here nor there. Bottom line is that they should have responded.
Should they have been invited? Sure. They are now considered family, or almost so. Close family should be invited.
I'm not sure why they chose not to respond. Perhaps they didn't know that this was the polite thing to do. A great many people do not know simple etiquette. These ladies will soon be family, so it is probably best to leave this alone.
Showers are an optional perk of the wedding process. It is best not to concentrate so much of our efforts on this luxury.
Future mother in law and sister in laws do not rsvp to shower or acknowledge
