Having a bridal shower, asking for gifts, with no wedding guests
My Fiance and I are both enlisting in the Air Force. Because of this we are forced to do a justice of the peace wedding out of town (where basic training is held). We are a young couple who really doesnt have much. I really want to have some sort of fairly small celebration with friends and family before we leave. We are planning on having a more traditional wedding in a year or so, but we wont have time to do any sorts of showers at that time. Is there an appropriate way of having a co-ed shower even though they will not be able to attend the actual wedding? And if so, is it too much to ask for gifts by including a registry?
Sincerely,
In Over Her Head.
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Since you can have only one wedding, you'll have to decide when are where this will take place. If you want to be married now and have a small reception afterwards that is appropriate. Then, if someone offers to host a pre-wedding party for you, inviting only those invited to the wedding, that would also be appropriate. But, you cannot have a wedding now, and another wedding later. After all, you'll already be married. If there is no time for a reception now then have your wedding and then, in a year host a reception to celebrate that marriage.
Or, wait until you can have the wedding you want. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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We are doing the justice of the peace wedding only so we will have the proper paper work so we can be stationed together and not have to be seperated for the next four years. Only our parents will be attending. That is why we are planning on a church wedding later, because our paster and others want to be included. My mother wants to throw a shower for us and is wondering how to do this. She is a very busy person so I am helping her set it up (I really don't care if that is not proper, I am doing it for her and not myself). Our main concern is how to ask (or if to ask) for gifts. We will be starting our lives with out silverware and kitchen stuff, much less a couch, and the gifts would be very helpful.
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You have come to a site which gives answers based on etiquette. So, if you don't care to hear what is proper, then I'm sorry but we cannot help you. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
Having a bridal shower, asking for gifts, with no wedding guests
