I have read many of the posts on this site and have gleaned some useful information, but have not found specific info to this scenario. Here’s the situation: Bridal Shower invitation includes a website directing invitee to contribute to upcoming couple’s Honeymoon.
When visiting the web site, the couple clearly states - We want to “avoid” traditional gifts for our wedding because we have everything we need for our home. This leaves one to think for the bridal shower and the wedding gift they want you contributing to their honeymoon fund and no other gift will do. What’s the best course of action here?
If a bridal shower is not the forum (I have read this on a couple of responses to questions) for giving envelopes indicating the guest has made a contribution to the couple’s honeymoon, -- then what is an appropriate Bridal Shower gift in this case if there is no other registry for gifts except to donate to their honeymoon?
So, if they want donations for the Honeymoon Registry am I to do this for both the Bridal Shower and Wedding Gift. By the way, I won't be able to attend the wedding, but will send a gift in advance. Thanks for any insight or diplomatic ways to handle the Bridal Shower "gift" dilemma.
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Re: Honeymoon Registry on Bridal Shower Invitation??
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Dear AWR,
Well, that is not polite is it? This is most improper, asking for cash for their shower.
As with all gifts, you would give what you wish to give. If you don't want to give cash for their honeymoon, don't. The registry is only supposed to be a guide. They probably don't know this though.
Although we try to give the couple what they want and can use, it really doesn't matter if the couple wants others to pay for their honeymoon/vacation. Guests choose what they wish to give. You are not obligated to give any gifts, especially when not attending. To be honest, most often when I receive such invitations I toss them.
Re: Honeymoon Registry on Bridal Shower Invitation??
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Thank you for your quick response. I actually would love to toss the invitation but it's for my niece, so I will tread carefully and do what I feel is best in this situation weighing your comments as well. Thank you again for your insight.
Honeymoon Registry on Bridal Shower Invitation??
