My daughter is getting married next year. We have a very large, very close family. The bride will have two showers, one hosted for her family and friends and one for hosted for the grooms family and friends. This is our dilema. I have read your posts that the shower should not be hosted by family. But in our family, the aunts, particularly the aunt that is the godmother, have always hosted the wedding showers. My three sisters, my sister in law and my best friend all want to host my daughter's shower. They are all very ,very close to my daughter, get along extremely well with each other and would consider it an honor. I know that as the Mother of the Bride I have no part in the planning, but they have all come to me and asked if they could host the shower. I would love to say "everyone host it together", but that seems a bit like a circus to me! I am worried sick about hurting someone's feelings and am wondering if you have any advice on what to do. My daughter is blessed to have so many people who love her so much!
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Jun 5, 2007, 9:18 AM
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Re: [Miss Lola] How many people can host a shower?
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Your daughter certainly is blessed to have so many who care. We have many posts on showers hosted by family which went awry. Most of the reason surround the planning and the gift expectations. But, if this is your family's tradition to host showers, and it is what the rest of the guests expect then, of course, there are no etiquette police who will stop you. However, since our service is based on proper etiquette, we really cannot give you advice on how to host this shower if the family wants to host.
My advice would be to avoid getting involved. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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Jun 5, 2007, 11:27 AM
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I couldn't agree more. There are many family traditions that are started out of a need many years ago. We continue the tradition without thinking that the 'need' is no longer relevant. So, this could be the case here. But, in any case, it may be best to step aside.
How many people can host a shower?
