I am one of 4 bridesmaids in a friend's wedding. Only 2 of us live nearby the bride and we recently talked of having a couples shower for the bride and groom. The bride was very happy with this idea. We asked for her list of invitees, as we did not know all of her friends and we received a list of 70 people! We were not at all prepared for this. The bride knew we were going to host it at my house and after some gentle nudging and also discussion of whether children should attend (I and the other bridesmaid was not in favor of this, although the groom has two children of his own and we were going to allow them to attend.). We subtracted children and number came down to 53. That is still a hefty number in our opinion. We were thinking in the 30 range for a home party. At this rate we feel like we need to rent out a big tent or a banquet hall somewhere. Bride is not happy to have to cut list down. Many of the bridesmaids are on a budget and cannot afford to spend really big bucks to feed over 50 people, much less rent out a special place to do it in. What do you recommend we do here in this situation? Now, I'm thinking it would have been better to just do a traditional women's shower! Thanks for your advice.
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You're right - this guest list is huge! I've been to weddings with fewer guests.
Politely inform the bride that hosting such a large event was never your intention, and ceertainlyly not in your budget (sorry) so perhaps a change of plans and back to the traditional ladies shower. Although it's nice to please the bride, it's not really her choice to make. So, have a plan in place of exactly what you CAN host and then offer that up.
PS: a couples shower insinuates couples, not families. I have kids of my own, so I'm not a child hater, but showers aren't really intended for kids. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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I agree. We have very many posts concerning proper shower etiquette. So, you could ask her to read just a few. She should quickly find that her idea about a shower closely resembles a wedding reception. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
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Thank you so much! We talked to our bride and worked everything out!
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Great. What was the outcome? Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
Huge guest list for bridal shower!!
