My nephew (age 26) is getting married. His mother (my sister) and his biological father were divorced when he was 1. The father chose never been involved in his life until the past few years.
The fiance thinks that it would be proper etiquette to invite the groom's step mother to the bridal shower. My sisters and I are hosting the shower because the bridal party consists of the fiancee's daughters and the groom's sister (all in school).
My sister (the grooms mother) does not want the step mother at the shower... and honestly, I don't think the fiancee does either, she just doesn't want to make an etiquette mistake.
I've decided we're not inviting the step mother. Can I assure the bride-to-be that it's ok? I guess I"m just looking for someone to tell me it's OK.
Thanks!
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Re: Invite the estranged Step-Mother of Groom?
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Dear FavAunt,
The major etiquette breach here is that you and your sisters are hosting the shower. This is much the same as the mother hosting, which is a no-no. It really doesn't matter that the attendants are too young to host. The shower is an optional party and if no one (non-family) offers to host it, it shouldn't be held. Hopefully all other rules are being followed.
If the stepmother is being treated as one of the mothers during the wedding, she should be invited, unless the mother of the bride would feel uncomfortable.
Please read our many posts concerning bridal shower etiquette. This party should not be too large or involve those who are not invited to the wedding.
Invite the estranged Step-Mother of Groom?
