I am planning an engagement party, for a young couple who is in our church choir, to be held in our home. Invitees will be the "regular" choir members, parents, and clergy. There are about 36 choir members who participate regularly. When the groom-to-be and I went over the list, the groom listed only 26 names from choir. I asked about the other 10, but he said he didn't know then too well. These 10 are regular choir participants and we know them all. I have been in the choir many years and my husband is also active in church. I have also asked the groom-to-be to ask his fiance if she would like to include these 10 choir members, as she may have a relationship with them. As hosts, would be it be proper to invite these 10 choir members, rather than risk hurt feelings, realizing that it is an engagement party for the couple. The couple is young and may not consider some things. This particular party is focused on the choir. The wedding is at least a year away. We are not a large choir, so it isn't as though we are strangers to each other. I am getting ready to send off the invitation and appreciate your help. Thanks.
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WEDDING ETIQUETTE EXPERT
Aug 25, 2005, 5:10 PM
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Re: [SpanishMoss] Invitees to Engagement Party
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Dear Host:
Perhaps the couple doesn't feel comfortable having people they realize they won't invite to their wedding being invited to their engagement party. This is a concern. These people don't absolutely have to be invited to the wedding. But, they may feel left out if they are not after celebrating their engagement. You don't always have to invite everyone from an organization.
Invitees to Engagement Party
